From the Desk of the Head Boomer...

Random Thoughts ... the economy, the election and more

2008-10-09T22:19:00.003-04:00

Hi there,
Well, I can't believe it's been about two weeks, actually a little longer, since I last wrote. I have no excuses .. altho I could make some. I was traveling, speaking, entertaining a house guest from Tokyo, having some anxiety about the economy, watching the political debates. But, other than that, no excuses.

Because of all my involvement with personal transformational seminars, I am no longer able to make excuses. I always take responsibility for things that happen in my life. Sometimes I hate that ... I want to blame others; but alas, it's all up to me.

Let's talk about the economy. For the last two weeks, I've been avoiding the television and newspapers; only wanted to hear the basics and no detail. But, alas, I'm not able to avoid it any longer. So, I've sent an email request to talk to my financial planner tomorrow and see where I stand. I'm afraid ... but I guess I need to be a big girl, grit my teeth and just know the truth. I'm also worried about my work. I don't have a lot in the hopper in the moment ... need to book more speeches, get a marketing plan in place, get on the phone. But, I seem paralyzed.

I spend a lot of time living in the place I call "the land of not knowing." I've written of this before. In my steps to reinvent myself ... I talk about having a plan to be with "uncertainty." Well, for all of us .. that's where we're at. We don't know when the market will bounce back. We don't know who will win the presidential election and if that person will be able to make an impact. Heck, we don't even know if it will rain tomorrow. There's a lot that is out of our control and our emotions are volatile. My classic question .. how do we handle it all?

I ask you ... what's your plan for dealing with it all?
Mine ... easy. First I do whatever I can to create some laughter ... to engage my sense of humor. But, when I'm on overload or feeling like I can't get a handle on it .. I go to a movie. Sometimes it's a comedy so I can laugh. Tonight, it was a tear-jerker, so I could cry. Either way, it taps into emotions and gives me a release. I come home more energized and focused to work.

What's your coping strategy?

As you face difficult decisions of the time ... what to do with your money OR lack thereof, who to vote for, what to make for dinner -- engage your coping strategies. Take time to laugh, love, experience, do something different yet meaningful.

Remember, we're the boomers. We are adventurous, daring, risk-taking, compassionate, focused and purposeful. Let's help the other generations tap into those aspects of themselves.

I'll be back at you soon.
Ann

Thoughts on a Saturday Night

2008-09-20T23:02:00.004-04:00

Wow, what a week. Political craziness, Wall Street crises, Bailouts.... what does it all mean, how will it impact all of us?

I've lived in this country my entire life (well, except between 1970-72 when I lived in Japan) and I've been on the planet a lot of years.I've voted in a lot of elections, I've been through tough economic times. I'm not sure why, but I feel more "angst" and discomfort with all this now and thought I would explore some of these feelings with you. Chances are you feel some of it too.

While I was married, I didn't depend on my husband for financial support. I was actually more of a breadwinner than he was. But, none-the-less, he did contribute and did provide health insurance. So, being on my own creates a bit more uncertainty and insecurity .. financially.

As a self-employed person, there is anxiety about whether the work will steadily come in. I'm way to "old" to seek a job ... haven't been in the job market for over 20 years AND what I do is valuable and necessary ... but will corporations and associations still pay for me to Speak and coach? Or, will the economy impact that?

As for politics, will the candidate I support get into office? And, if he doesn't will the one I don't support come around to the position I think we need to turn things around? And, before we even vote in 6 or so weeks, will I be so turned off by the negative campaigning that I'll even care?

I truly dislike the election process. I hate that they both campaign with the intent of destroying the reputation of the other and not on what they plan to do. They both seem to be talking heads to me now -- saying what they think we want to hear. Saying what they think based on what the other says. Don't they get how we dislike it all? Is there any way that we, as average citizens, can tell them how much we want them to stop that?

So, I guess I've succumbed (at least for now) to the negativity. Truthfully, I haven't been watching the news. I get depressed. I prefer to keep my head in the sand as much as possible. Now, I know that's not what I "should" be admiting. I'm a highly enlightened and transformed woman ... and here I am admitting that I'd rather avoid looking at the world around me right now. But, hey, it is what it is. I'm being honest and authentic with you.

I'm wondering how you feel about all these things? What's important to you and on your mind as we go into week two of some truly tough times?
Please comment and let everyone hear from you.

Keep the faith. I also know from being on the planet for 62 years that everything eventually works out. The market swings back up, the election happens and ends campaigning for another several years. I know that if the "other" candidate gets in, I'll survive. No, I'm not threatening to leave the country and live elsewhere ... so I'll learn to cope. I've done it before. I'm resilient and so are you...
Onward an upward. Keep your chin up and have a great week.
Ann

Sunday night in San Francisco

2008-09-15T01:42:00.003-04:00

Hi all,
Hope you had a marvelous weekend. I'm in San Francisco and have just completed an incredible all-weekend seminar. I haven't been outside the hotel since Thursday night when I arrived. I've been engaged in an inspiring conversation about what it takes to be a Remarkable Human Being ... and one who takes on a project to make a difference in the world.
This is how I spent my weekend. I was in the meeting room with about 130 people from all over the world on the first weekend of a 9 month course. We'll be meeting again every other month through May of 2009.
I was and am blown away by the stature of the people who attended AND by their intentions to do amazing things in the world.

I'll be checking in with you all when I'm back home in NYC ....where I'll arrive late Monday night.

In the meantime, ask yourself -- if I were take on a project to do something positive in the world, what might it be? And why would it be important to me?

Back to you soon.
Ann

I'm Flying on September 11th ... It Feels Weird

2008-09-08T09:26:00.003-04:00

Good morning everyone,
I hope you feel renewed and refreshed after the weekend AND the short week.
It's Monday morning and we're back in the trenches of our work... and hopefully our passion. I am.

As I got organized for my week, I realized that I'll be flying cross-country on Thursday, September 11th. I don't think I've flown on that date in the past 7 years. It made me wince... for a moment and then it generated some memories of that fateful day.

Although I live in NYC now, I was living in Austin,TX on that day. However, the impact was one of the strongest experiences of my lifetime. First, my sister has lived in NY for 30 years. Frankly, she's the first person I called. Fortunately, she was NOT there that day, but was in WI, visiting a friend. Then, being alone in my house in the far suburbs (actually out in the country) outside of Austin, I called my husband and then my son -- they were both in Austin. My husband was at work; my son (the musician) was sleeping. They were both okay... thank God. Now, you might wonder why I would be worried about their well-being. Well, as I watched the horror on Good Morning America, the local news jumped in to alert Austin that it was a "target" because it's the capital of TX and home to President Bush. They were evacuating government offices and then telling everyone else to stay off the roads and not drive home.

My husband had put his car in the shop the night before and had my car that day. I was scheduled to work at home. So, there I was, alone, far away from anyone I loved, wondering if the world would come to an end that day. I was pacing, frantic, on the phone to anyone that served as a lifeline ... glued to TV for each new piece of news.

NOTE: I think we ALL suffer from Post Traumatic Shock from seeing the videos of those planes hitting the towers, the towers going down, people jumping out, etc. They are etched. In fact, within weeks of moving to NY, I was sitting in my apartment when I heard a loud plane fly by. This was unusual, because planes don't fly low over NYC since that event. I panicked momentarily (that's how Post traumatic stress works .... you're easily triggered.) It was an airforce jet ... it was fleet week in NYC, but I didn't know.)

Anyhow, that week of September 11th is blur. As a clinical social work therapist, all I wanted to do was fly to NY and be of service and help with the families. There were no flights AND after that I had too many work commitments get in the way. I always felt guilty for not helping.

But, here's the purpose of this column today. It was September 11th that was the catalyst for my entire Re-Invention of my life. My lesson that day became my motto:
"Life is way too short ... to be unhappy." It was within weeks of that day that I finally told my husband that I wanted to separate. We'd been unhappy for many years and had just fallen into complacency. it was time for us to go separate ways and search for what might be more fulfilling.

That was the beginning of my life now ... which is dedicated to YOU ... to helping each of you figure out what you yearn for, how to get it and to reach fulfillment.
Please don't misunderstand -- I'm not telling anyone to get divorced. That's what I needed. If I hadn't, I wouldn't be living in NY. I wouldn't have this company. I wouldn't be writing a book that will inspire others to Re-Invent, etc.

What decisions do you have to make ... that will add joy, happiness, contentment and fulfillment to your life for the rest of your life? What are you waiting for?

We don't have tremendous losses of lives from things like 9/11 and the War ... only for you to be complacent. It's time to WAKE UP ... be of service to others, contribute to the world being a better place, tap into your talents and LIVE life to the fullest.

Point: Make this the year, the month, maybe even the day that you make some decisions to improve the quality of your life! I urge you. You and all your loved ones will be happier for it.

And, I'm here if you need me. Have a wonderful week.

I'm off to San Francisco on Sept. 11th to begin an amazing course called Power & Contribution. It's a one-year course, where I will be gathering with 130 people from all over the world. We will meet every other month for a long weekend in S.F. Each of us will take on an "impossible promise" for the world -- in other words, each will take on a huge project to truly make a difference. Not sure what my promise will be yet, although I know it will have something to do with people being passionate and fulfilled and aging with dignity. (I'm sure I'll be writing about it all as it goes on this year.)

Til next time,
Ann

Joyful Weekend and Random Thoughts

2008-09-06T13:59:00.003-04:00

Happy SAturday,
I'm sitting at my computer ... catching up on lots of small pieces of business and then hopefully, will edit another couple of chapters in my book.
I'm choosing to work all day today. Here in NYC we're expecting some aftermath of the hurricane moving up the coast. It is dark and dreary and will probably storm all afternoon and evening. It's a great day to hang out at home.

I had a fabulous experience this week. I got to be an Over 50 model on the Today show on Wednesday morning. I just responded to an email, and voila ... I was selected as one of five. It was a blast.
The limo picked me up at home at 6:15 a.m.and took me to NBC. We didn't go on til after 10:30 ... but there were outfits to be tried on and picked and then make up and hair. What a wonderful makeover. I felt trendy, youthful and excited. We were treated very well, lavished with food and snacks and then a limo to take me back home.
If you want to see me ... I'm the second on this video: http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/21134540/vp/26526790#26526790

Anyhow, the best part was I wore this beautiful purple trench coat from Banana Republic. I think I'm going to beg them to donate it to me .... in exchange for posting my picture and that it's their coat. Wish me luck,

So, after feeling like a celebrity for 5 minutes on Wednesday, I returned to life as usual....

I lost most of that day, so am working today. It's fine. Tomorrow looks to be a beautiful day and I'm heading out of town for the day with a girlfriend.

My Summer is winding down. I'm beginning my traveling next week... off to San Francisco for 4 days, then home for a week, then to New Hampshire,Albany and Austin, TX... whew!

I'll check in here periodically as the mood hits and I have something to say.

Meanwhile, the campaigning continues, is escalating and getting nasty. I think I'll stop watching. I'll vote, I'll engage in conversation about it all, but I'll keep my thoughts to myself in public... I hate the arguments. And, I'm as opinionated as the next guy.
In summary ... we have two older guys on the tickets -- one for president and one for vice president. We have two young boomers on the ticket -- one for president and one for VP. And, we have a woman. It'll be really interesting. My only hope is that they continue to work on making this a better place to live for US .. the people and not just for their own agendas. We'll see.

Have a fabulous weekend. I'd love to hear from you about things you're interested in or want me to write about.

Ann

The Day after Labor Day

2008-09-02T10:29:00.003-04:00

It's another beautiful morning in NYC ... bright sunshine, moderate temperature. WE've had an incredible Summer. Hard to believe that within about a month it will begin to get colder and Fall will be in the air.
For now, however, I'll enjoy what's here.

There was a great deal that happened over the weekend. There was Gustav .. a raging hurricane that had the audacity to ravage the Gulf Coast, especially The Big Easy area yet again. Fortunately, lessons from the previous mistakes made it much safer this time. Now, they will be back to repairing yet again. My heart goes out to the community and the friends I have there.

In politics, we got new-found information on Sarah Palin and her young daughter. In previous times, people would have been more outraged about a 17 year old getting pregnant. In fact, she would be sent away and it would be a big secret. Now, we're so much more open and understanding ... although it puts her Mother in jeopardy.
We also saw Obama indicate that judging Sarah's daughter is off-limits -- a sign of respect. So, let's move on and see how politics play out.

It was a "holiday" weekend with an extra day off (for a few) ... funny how retail makes it a big SALE day and many people work on this non-work day.

I had a wonderful weekend. If you remember, on SAturday, I worked all day, but then I played the rest of the weekend. I went to two movies in one day with a friend and then yesterday took a friend out for lunch for her birthday and went shopping for new clothes -- took advantage of those great retailers who worked when I didn't.

It was also a struggle day for me. My webmaster is changing my server and I couldn't access email ... basically still can't. I get so frustrated. I sometimes wonder if my "age" ... growing up without computers limits me in my capacity to understand and deal with them. Anyhow, maybe even by the time I finish writing this .. it will all be working again and I can get back to "normal" ... not that I'm ever normal.

So in the midst of so much happening, I got upset about a tiny conversation with a man. Thought I'd share it .. it's so a part of the dating scene and the struggle to feel good about myself as a woman.

I had two dates with a man who was a lot older -- well, he's 72 -- so that's 10 years older. He was nice and polite and even made me laugh a bit. Both dates were short -- one for dessert (maybe 1 1/2 hours) and one to visit the museum and then have a drink (maybe 2 hours). Yesterday he called to see if I feel any "chemistry." I explained that I need a bit of time to figure that out. Yes, sometimes I feel chemistry immediately and get that tingling feeling. But other times, it develops, as I get to know someone. I told him I didn't know yet, but wondered why he was asking. He said he wanted to know if I'm suppressing it or resisting it. I said, all you've done is "hug" me -- there's been no contact to know. He said he doesn't feel it and let's just move on. I couldn't believe it. This "old" man is not attracted to me. Excuuuussse me?
I took it so personal .. well, not to his face.... I wondered, as I always do, if there's something wrong with me, am I really that unattractive, is it still the extra 10 pounds (remember I've lost a few). What's the deal and why should I care.

I mean, people have lost their homes, their city, people are 17 and pregnant, the country is going to hell in a handbasket and I'm worried about a 72 year old man, that I could care less about, saying he doesn't feel any chemistry AND I take it personally. I definitely have to "get a grip."

I share this because I know other singles feel this way. Attracting a person for romance and relationship is such a big deal for many of us and we just don't get it.
Intellectually I know that people have chemistry with each other or they don't. I know about pheromones. Truthfully, I'm not attracted to too many men - in fact, most that I meet -- it doesn't mean they aren't nice men .. they're just not my type. So, then why do I take it personally?

What does it take to have such high self-esteem that things like that won't bother me? Should I just STOP dating all together and enrich my life so much that it doesn't matter? Will a man I like ever find me attractive in a lasting way?

Truth: I look pretty damn good. I guess I have to keep saying that over and over until I convince myself.

Oh, but let me not forget -- I do have a 40 year old lover. He finds me very attractive. I love it. BUT, I constantly expect that he will meet a cute young thing and toss me aside... especially when I don't see him for weeks. This is one of those times. He's been gone for a month and won't be back til next week and we have little contact. So, I wonder. He's probably just using me ... but then again, I'm using him as well. It's okay.

As for other men -- I have no clue. If the lover goes away, I might just purposely become celibate. I'll keep you tuned in.
Meanwhile, I'll get back to the matter of finishing my book, which I course I think will be a bestseller and of building my business and of enjoying the magic of NY, with or without a male companion.

You have a great week!
Thanks for letting me rant!
Ann

Good Saturday morning

2008-08-30T11:13:00.002-04:00

Good morning,
It's the SATurday of Labor Day weekend. It's 11:00 a.m. and I'm working ... again.
Actually, I won't work all day, but I will for awhile.
Although the weather in NY has been beautiful, it's cloudy and about to rain and storm outside today.Can't complain. It'll be great tomorrow and Monday.

I've been following politics this week. Interesting dynamics. I heard some exciting speeches at the Dem convention and some interesting rebuttals on CNN. Then, there was John McCain's announcement yesterday. I have mixed feelings about his choice. She's young (barely squeaks by as a boomer -- in fact on the border of boomer/Gen Xer.)She's "new" to government, but she is a woman. It's a strategic move on his part.
It's all going to make for a heated campaign over the next two months.

In fact, I think I will NOT be watching it all. I'm sick of it. Prior to the convention, I stopped watching weeks ago. 18 months of campaigning is waaaayy to long.

So, on to other things.
I've mentioned before that I'm working on a book about my own ReInvention....it's called "60,Sexy, Sassy and Free: A Real Woman's Story of ReInvention." Well, it's going really well. I spent all afternoon yesterday with my writing coach ... going over the completed Part One. It's awesome. Even though it's my story, I was excited about how he pumped it up and made it a compelling story. Can't wait for boomers out there to read it and see how they can get inspired to live their best life.

So, I'll be spending my weekend continuing to write, preparing syllabi for my class I'll be teaching at NYU this Fall, for preparing two keynote speeches to be delivered in September, for re-writing my websites and the list goes on.

I recently read a blog about people who are critical of self-employed people. They think we don't work. Hah! I'll wager I work many more hours then most people with a job. Who wants to challenge me? I haven't been to bed before 1:00 a.m. any night this week. BUT, I did balance it by going out most nights for dinner. Then, I'd come home and work some more. Thank God I love what I do.

And, lest you wonder, I do have some fun plans for this weekend. I'll be seeing at least one Broadway play, I have brunch and movie plans with friends... it will be well-balanced.

So... to the rest of you... have a great weekend.
Back at you soon!
Ann

Random Thoughts on a Sunday

2008-08-24T11:23:00.004-04:00

Good Sunday morning,
It's a gorgeous day in NYC ... and I'll be in all day... working.
Just to catch you up on the busy schedule of an aging boomer. Remember, I don't ever intend to retire ... I LOVE my life and all the things I get to do.The price to be paid for that -- sometimes I'm busier than I can shake a stick at. And, I consider myself a "balance and stress management" expert ... so even when I'm busy, I try to take time to play.

Yesterday, a gorgeous Saturday, I got up, took myself to breakfast, then cut from the Westside to the Eastside of NY and walked for an hour down Park Avenue. (For 3 Saturdays in a row, Park Avenue has been shut off from cars from 9-1 so people can bike, skate and walk nearly the length of the city.) Then, exhausted, I slithered into a movie theater, ate popcorn, drank a coke (yes, a weakness), watched a movie and most importantly, rested my tired knees. Following that, I went home, cleaned up and met a friend for dinner. So, I "played" all day.

Today, I get to work all day! I'll be teaching two courses in the Professional Studies department at NYU this semester (yes, I'm proud of that.) So, today is the day I create the syllabi for those courses. And, if I get it done, my reward is to go dancing tonight. If not, I'll be home working. Period.

Point: Always get done what you commit to doing AND try to do it in a timely enough way that you reward yourself with some fun and or relaxation! Balance is the key.

On another note, I've had the television on in the background (and will probably sneak out and buy the NY Times Sunday paper.) It's an exciting time... political conventions are kicking off, campaigns are heating up. Wow. What a monumentally important time.

We have a young boomer (47) running and he's the first Afro-American to run for president. And, he's selected a senior (65? I think) to run with him to balance the team.
We have a senior (72) running for president frantically trying to decide on the "best" running mate...but the lead option is a boomer.
I've watched George Stepanopoulis this morning and 1/2 of Meet the Press. The news is all atwitter about all this. The sparks are flying, the negative campaign ads are airing.
Get ready for 2 full months of this stuff .. hard and nasty.

The most important thing here: no matter what your party and beliefs, there are some vitally important issues to cover. Make sure you keep your candidates accountable for these issues. Write them, call them out. Work with groups you want to help have a greater impact. In other words, don't shut down .. but rather, as a boomer, make your voice known.

As a boomer, I'm concerned about Health Care, the Economy (housing, jobs), the Environment. I want to see the war dwindle down and our troops home. I think I represent what we all care about. I know we agree, at the very least, that we'd like the future to be better for our children/ grandchildren. The important thing is ... who will understand our issues and be the most proactive in addressing them. That's where you come in. Support your candidate and in the areas where you might differ with them, tell them what you want.

Point: In this political campaign... BE INVOLVED. Don't sit back. Make sure you ask the important questions, keep the candidates accountable and by all means ... VOTE.
And, maybe you want to make some personal changes in your spending and your contributions to causes your believe in.

So, that's where I am on a Sunday .... working, thinking Presidential thoughts.
Where are you? Wherever you are... just make it a great day!
Ann

What about romance ... for me?

2008-08-16T23:26:00.002-04:00

HI Everyone,
Well, here it is 11:30 p.m. on a Saturday night and here I sit, alone, by myself, in my apartment. No date on Saturday night.
Actually I shouldn't complain .. I did have two dates this week, but don't think I'll be seeing him again. He walked me home the second night, came up, realized I had 2 cats and freaked out. I doubt he'll be back, but who knows.

I went to see Woody Allen's new movie late this afternoon. It's called: Vicky Cristina Barcelona. I loved it AND parts of it were tough to watch. Why? Because it was sexy and romantic. I want that! Plus, Javier Bardem is really "hot."

What made it interesting is that although I really enjoyed it, as I usually feel about Woody Allen movies, I also left a bit depressed. Let me explain.

There's something about being over 60 that makes me fear I'll never have a truly romantic, loving relationship again and that I'll be alone for the rest of my life. What a waste that would be. Here's the rub ... I'm great in relationships. I'm loving, affectionate, sensual, a fun companion. I love to romp and play and have adventures. I tend to adore the man I"m with and definitely contribute to him feeling great about himself. But, truly, there aren't too many men (unless they're like 70's or 80's that are interested in a 62 year old women. Even though I look young! What's a girl to do?

I wonder if men of 62 have the same problem? I guess if they're wealthy, then even younger women come after them. Are there more women beating down the doors of men, despite their age than there are men beating down the door of women of this age? I'd love to hear about that.

Now, I really can't complain. I DO seem to attract a few younger men. I've got a couple of 40 year olds interested... but altho fun, don't see much of a future in that. I mean, can you see me as the step-Mother of a 5 year old? I don't think so.
Am I a cougar? By definition, I suppose so. I do like younger men. But, do I deliberatly go out and look for them? No. Would I like to find more of them? Yes.

Anyhow, some ramblings on a Saturday night... before I go to bed alone.

Point: We need to love ourselves for who we are ... even if that's being alone. We don't need another person to "complete" us .... but it sure beats always feeling alone.

And, of course, there are those activities that are much more fun and fulfilling with another person.Oh well, guess I'll continue wishing and hoping.
And, if you're reading this and you're a man and you're not married -- let me hear from you. Who knows. Or, if you're reading this and you are married AND you know a man who might be available .. send him my way. Oh, and the younger the better.. well, really, not under 40.

Thanks and have a glorious Sunday.
Ann, "the cougar" Fry

The lazy days of Summer -- HA!

2008-08-13T11:03:00.002-04:00

Greetings to all you lovely boomers out there,
It's a Wednesday,the middle day of the workweek, in the middle week of the month of August. I don't know about you, but this being the last two actual weeks (okay 3 weeks) before Summer officaially ends with Labor Day weekend, I'm feeling like Summer is slipping away. Where did it go?

As many of you know, I'm a very active boomer. I work more than 40 hours a week -- writing, proposing (contracts and gigs, that is), coaching clients by phone (or in person), speaking. I'm frantically completing the draft for my next book so I can self-publish it by the early Fall.

I also take time 4-5 times a week to meditate and to walk or work out. And, this Summer, I'm building up my health -- with knee surgery out of the way, I'm walking hours a week, with a personal goal of my own style marathon by beginning of Fall. And, lastly, I'm eating healthier and losing weight.

There seems no time for relaxation, rest and just plain "nothingness" in my schedule.
And, truthfully, I'm not sure I'd want it any other way. But, that's me.

What about you. What are you thinking as Summer begins to wind down? Have you vacationed this year? Will you be taking one? Is that important? What are you doing in the arena of self or personal development? (Did I mention that I am also enrolled in a weekly personal growth seminar over a 3 month period.. and have meetingsa and homework involved in that?)

What is your saving grace in the "busyness" of your life? Is your life the way you want it OR do you want things to be different?

This entry raises more questions than gives answers. It's a time of reflection.
I suggest that you take a few moments to inquire into what's next for you.
A continuation of your active boomer life because you love it that way (like me)?
Or, a need to slow down a bit and smell the roses?
Or, a committment to someething new and different?
What's your preference? August is a great time ... it helps you have it more outlined and sketched into your brain as Summer will slowly descend (or ascend) into Fall pretty soon. Within a month or so, we'll begin to see changes in colors in the trees, temperatures will begin to fall in the evenings (well, I guess it depends on where you live).

Point: It's imperative to a longer lifespan that we learn our own cycles, know what we need to feel inspired, and take a few breaks along the way to rest, relax and rejuvenate .. whatever that looks like. Importantly ... do it YOUR WAY!

Have a wonderful few days. I'll be back here soon... with opinions or with late-breaking news.

Cheers,
Ann

Oh that Circuit City

2008-08-06T12:47:00.003-04:00

Hi there,
My son called me early this morning to tell me about a story he heard on NPR. Seems that Mad magazine ran a parody story about Circuit City, in which they referred to it as "Sucker City." Well, it seems also, that Circuit City didn't take well to that story and threatened to stop selling Mad magazine. And, it also seems that later, they had a change of mind and said that maybe they just had to lighten up and were going to appoint a task force to look at how to create a more Fun workplace.

This is hilarious. All they need to do is call ME.
For those of you who don't know ... I, in my other business, Humor University, am an "EXPERT" in bringing Fun to the workplace. My title: CEO and Dean of FUN~

I just want to jump on a plane, fly to Richmond and "consult" with them about HOW to create a greater sense of humor at work. In fact, when I finish writing this, I'm going to call through. Wish me luck.

But here's the point -- if you can't take a joke, then you're really in trouble.

I don't care who you are .. you're fair game in business. Did you forget that it's a compliment to be written about at all? It gets you press. People will want to go to your business and check you out. Even when someone says unkind things, there are those that will want to prove it wrong. And, at the very least, it's a WAKE UP CALL to look within and see if there's something that needs changing. Hello!

Now, to personalize this ... what do your friends, peers, etc. say about you? Do you have a sense of humor or a great attitude? Are you up for serving others OR do you rip people off, take advantage of them, only think about yourself, etc.

Take a little inventory and see what you come up with.
In the meantime, check out Circuit City -- I bet they'll be really cooperative now. And, for me -- if you know anyone who works in their corporate headquarters -- hook them up with MOI!

Thanks, and have a great day.

Election Buzz

2008-08-01T22:19:00.003-04:00

Now, I have no intention of telling anyone who to vote for. That's an entirely personal decision for each of us to make. I'm also not going to tell you who I'm going to vote for. That's private.

But tonight, I went to see Swing Vote, with Kevin Costner. I like him, I wanted a laugh and movies are always great therapy for me when I am stressed out.

The movie is not an academy award quality film, to say the least. Kevin Costner seems to be playing an idiotic man (again) ... he's played that sort of role before. The young actress who plays his daughter is wonderful and amazing. She's definitely on her way to stardom.

If you haven't seen the previews, let me clue you in. The presidential election occurs in November .... except that the ballot of one voter (you know who) never went through because of an electricity glitch. The voter officials call upon him to have to "revote" within 10 days. The ENTIRE election hinged on him.
So, now the President (running for re-election) and his openent show up to push for his vote. The little town becomes a zoo of papparazzi, reporters, and more.

The saving grace of the movie is what it tells us about our candidates and how they will do anything to WIN. They both woo him-- change their positions just to please him so he'll vote for them, they'll wine him and dine him. It was farcical and funny BUT a bit uncomfortable to consider.

Will we ever have an election where we get to truly know what the candidates stand for? Will they forever change their positions just for votes OR will they consistently stand for their positions?

I don't know about you, but I am so sick of the election process at this point. I hardly watch or listen any longer. I hate the negative campaigning ... more interest in tearing the other person apart then in actually sharing where they stand on the issues. And, I'm really tired of the press -- in my book -- they are capable of pushing the election to support whatever candidate.

Will I vote, of course I will. Will my vote count? I doubt it? Am I cynical / skeptical? You bet.I'm a boomer, with integrity and a commitment to be involved in the future of my county. But, it doesn't mean I have to like the process.

Just my two cents.
I welcome yours.
Have a great weekend.
Ann

Mama Mia --- A Fun Movie for Boomers

2008-07-22T23:29:00.002-04:00

I just went to see the Mama Mia movie tonight... loved it. Now, first, I must admit, it's hokey and probably a woman's movie. I saw the play on Broadway and enjoyed that too. It's always weird to see a musical completely adapted into a movie ... but once you get past that, this is great, especially the music. Now, if you weren't around in the 60's and 70's or if you blinked, then you missed Abba. Mama Mia has given them a whole new audience.

What was really fun watching this tonight was that it stars Meryl Streep, one of the finest actresses of her time. Here she is singing and dancing and gyrating sex appeal... and she's in her 50's. It also stars Pierce Brosnan as one of her lovers... he's well in his 50's. There are several others ... all boomers. They sing, are sexy, dance. I love how we/boomers show up in this movie. We are vibrant, full of life, attractive. There's lots of kissy-face.

Kids might watch this and say "yuck .. they're old" ... but we will relish every moment.

Point: No matter what your age, you are still sexy, vibrant, funny and alive with spirit ... if you want to be.

Don't be afraid to flaunt your sexuality and your beauty. Don't let anyone else put parameters or boundaries or limitations on you being youthful and sexy. You have just as much right as anyone else. And, make sure you support the theater and films that give this message out as well. Spend your money to support our cause.

So, go out and see Mama Mia. Be ready to bounce in your seat. You won't be able to sit still. Be prepared to laugh and to cry.. and just know that you will leave the theater happy. Then, go out in the street just proud to be who you are.

We boomers rock!!!
Have a wonderful mid-week.
Ann

Random Thoughts

2008-07-17T14:17:00.003-04:00

You know, when I hear about people being bored, I just don't get it.
When I hear about people just wanting to sit around and watch TV, I just don't get it.
I am busier than I have ever been in my life and I love every minute of it.

Now, some of you might be thinking: "Well, I don't have money to do things or I don't have time or there's nothing happening where I live." Phooey. Filling your life with things that fulfill you doesn't have to cost money, take a lot of time AND you can always find those things.... if not in your town, then nearby.

Begin to ask yourself the question: What do I really love to do? What makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside?

For me, unless I'm traveling to speak someplace, I spend most of my days indoors, in my apartment ... working. I have coaching calls with clients, I am writing proposals, contracts, and completing my next book. So, yes, I work all day too. But, by night time, I'm raring to get up and out and to do things.
Take this week. Monday night I went to a class -- part of a 10-week seminar I'm taking called Creating Happiness. I look forward to every Monday night. Tuesday night, I went to see Damn Yankees (the play) with my friend Susan. Wednesday night, I went to a little club in the Village to hear poetry (it cost only $7.00) and was awesome. Tonight, for $15.00 I'm going to hear Jazz and Folk music at a local museum. My nights are full.

Of course, tomorrow night I'll probably crash and I'll be getting ready to fly out Saturday morning ... but who knows, I might still find something to do.
Yes, I live in NYC .. where there is always something happening.

I do other things. I do volunteer work with teenagers, I mentor some folks on their business (gratis.... through my professional association)

The point is this: Being active and engaging in activities that fulfill you energize you, keep you young and happy. It's a no-brainer. And speaking of brain .. it'll keep yours working!

Just some thoughts on boomers aging for fulfillment and fun ... on this Thursday afternoon.
Have a great weekend.
Ann

The Beauty of ReInvention in the Boomer years

2008-07-13T11:39:00.004-04:00

Good Sunday morning to you,
Well, it is 11:40 a.m. and I have just returned from a long walk along the Hudson River here in NYC. For those of you who don't know me, I "reinvented myself" 2 years and 4 months ago (but who's counting). I moved to NYC, the city of my dreams, where I've always wanted to live. It's been an interesting journey, to say the least. But, one that has made all the difference to my life.

Take this morning , for example. I awoke in my cute little apartment in NYC, got dressed, got on the subway to head downtown. I got off at Houston Street and walked West to the Westside Hwy, crossed it and then walked along the Hudson River, dividing NY and NJ. It's a gorgeous walk. I walked downtown, towards Battery Park, which is at the tip of Manhattan Island. When I got closer to my destination, I just had to stop. It took my breath away --- As I stood, facing west, along the railing, I looked ahead and saw the lovely skyline of Jersey just across the river. To my immediate far left, I caught a view of Staten Island... and there, just in front of it, a perfect view of Ellis Island and the Statue of Liberty. The boats and ferries were crossing, the water was clear, the weather was sunny and the sky blue. It was an amazing moment.

Now, this is not the first time I've walked here or viewed this, and each time I marvel at how far I've come in my ReInvention.
(Lest you wonder, you'll be able to read all about my story in my book, due out late Fall, entitled "60, Sexy, Sassy and Free: Living Life on My Terms.)
Let's just say this. My first year was scary, my second a challenge and now, I'm reaping the rewards of my new life. I'm happier (even tho a little lonely at times). I have more work, I'm in the final phase of writing my book. I have so many amazing opportunities. I am getting very physically healthy -- having just recently lost 9 pounds (with at least 11 more to go) and I walk or work out nearly everyday. I feel fantastic.

Now, would that have happened where I lived before? Maybe.But NY forces you to be outdoors and to walk all over .. and up and down subway stairs, etc. It's pushed me to confront my limits and to be open to many new things.

Point: When we do something different and outside our comfort zone, with the goal of having life on our terms ... the results can be amazing IF you're willing to do whatever it takes.

As aging boomers, we can have the time of our lives. Our children are independent, we're mostly settled in our work/careers OR ready to retire and try new things. And, many of us are healthy enough to take on more.

I'm living my dream. I'm hoping you are at least considering living your dream... whatever it may be.

Have a fabulous weekend.
Ann

Hey, What Do We Need To Do To Get a Little Respect?

2008-07-07T08:27:00.007-04:00

Good morning,
You know, I'm a bit tired of the many articles insinuating that we are old ... and that despite our youthful attitudes, the fact that we are in (or approaching) our 60's automatically means that we are old and will begin to have many health challenges.

I read an article today that said the following:

The average U.S. head of household is now nearly 50 years old (49.5, to be precise). But here's the bigger story: More than 80% of the growth in the number of households in the next five years will be among those headed by people 55 and older. That's pretty scary stuff for the youth-obsessed.
Furthermore, it said:
For one thing, it fosters more risk-averse behavior. It says to consumers: "Better be more careful with your spending, because you will never be as healthy or have as much money as you've had in the past." (To read the whole story, go here: http://adage.com/article?article_id=128181)

Now, I grant you, this is a consumer-watch article, so thay look at spending trends. Well I say ... hurry up and get us now before we tighten our belts, hit the nursing homes and close our pocket books.. Ha!
How about instead, they capitalize on what we are spending money on and start to attract us with those things -- I mean really tap into our desires. We'll whip out those checkbooks to fulfill our longings ... for travel-related interests, for sports cars, for exercise-related items, for entertainment, for sexual enhancement. Go after us -- offer all of these and more at bargains and we'll become loyal followers.

I can't speak for anyone but me, although I sometimes try, but even (read that again ... EVEN) if I begin to have health concerns, I'm not about to give up that which fulfills me and brings me pleasure. I'll keep on buying sexy clothing, going to Broadway shows, buying good workout sneakers as I continue getting healthier.

Point: Don't flush us away because we're getting older; embrace us, sell to us, give us wonderful opportunities to buy what you're selling .. but do it from OUR perspective of why we want it. Cater to us. Get to know us, really know us ... on our terms. We are a very viable force. And, we're fabulous. And, don't forget, we are still parents and grandparents and we BUY for our underlings ... probably YOU.

Have a happy Monday everyone.
Thanks,
ann

Independence Day Thoughts ... One Day Later

2008-07-05T09:34:00.003-04:00

Yesterday was the Fourth of July... an important day to all of us. We live in a country that affords us freedoms that we take for granted. Once a year, however, it's important to remember how lucky we really are.

This isn't a sappy Patriotic statement, but said more from the standpoint of our personal everyday opportunities.

We have so many chances to do what we want in life. We can work for others, work for ourselves. We can live in houses or apartments or in communes, or cities or in the country. If we have a lot of money, we can live in more than one place. Now, before you get on your high horse, I'm talking about opportunities that I know are NOT available to everyone ... but not because they don't have the freedom. The down side is we are still a "class" system and there are many who don't feel the freedom and are barely able to survive. I am a social worker, I know that. And, I do what I can to help there, when I can -- to help people get a leg up so they feel they have more choices.

We also have an abundance of choices in the realm of what we can purchase and what we can do with it. We can shop in millions of stores, buy things from all over the world. We are far from limited in any way.

And, we can choose our lifestyles -- our sexual lifestyles, without fear of retribution (well, in most parts of the country), our fashion styles, the colors we paint our homes (except where neiborhood associations prohibit that), our use of language.We can choose to live where we need a car or where we can rely on public transportation. We cn choose to recycle or not (although we "should").

You get my drift. We live in a country where we have many chances to express ourselves and to be FREE. We can thank our forefathers for that, as well as many who followed them and passed legislation that fostered our continued growth.

I am grateful for my life. I am young for my years, I am healthy, I can buy whatever I need to help me be more attractive. I choose to live in NY, without a car -- doing my part to help the environment. I recycle all that I can. I volunteer to help others. I position myself in such a way that my voice sometimes inspires other.
Life can't be much better than this .... well... not entirely.
There are some things missing still: I'd love to be in a fabulous relationship with an amazing man, I'd love to have a bit more disposable income, I'd love to travel and explore this world more.

So, I urge you this weekend to look at the freedoms you have AND to acknowledge what you are grateful for. And, lastly, in the words of John Kennedy, "ask not what your country can do for you ... but what you can do for your country!" How can you volunteer in ways that use your talents to be of service to others. The right to volunteer is another of our freedoms. And, as baby boomers, volunteering is in our DNA.

Have a fabulous weekend.
Ann

Yes, Let's Keep Boomers Working

2008-06-29T10:31:00.003-04:00

I read a very great article this morning called I Brake for Boomers in the Workplace. Go here to read it all: http://www.fistfuloftalent.com/2008/06/dont-be-bum-rus.html?cid=120556616#comment-120556616

The point of the article is to acknowledge that many boomers are a) not ready to retire yet and b) that companies still need their input. It alludes to the fact that companies also need the technology talents of the Gen Xers. That's true as well.
The key here is that age needs to not be a divider, but rather we need to highlight the strenths of both and learn from one another.

One of my driving passions is to work with companies to improve on the culture and thus the productivity and team spirit of their employees. I mostly work with managers. I see that there is a substantial need for management teams to address the ways that the generations can work together AND to really focus on how to engage the boomers -- to keep them working as long as possible.

While there is often reference in recent articles that boomers HAVE to keep working because of the economy being tenuous at the moment. Let me make a statement here about that. I REFUSE TO BUY IN TO THE ECONOMY BEING BAD. The more the media tries to scare us about the economy, the more they drive us into panic. I'm not going there. We are an incredibly resilient country. We've been in lean times before and we always come out strong. This is not a time for companies to tighten their belts and stop offering growth experiences to their employees.But, rather, it's a perfect time to get creative, look for new and effective techniques to "bring out the best" in their teams. An analogy is the employee who gets fired and instead of panicking about unemployment, he takes his savings and goes back to school to expand his talents. Companies should do the same.Focus on expansion and growth. Get more creative.

If you'd like to see more ideas about how to engage the boomers and keep them longer, go to http://www.itsboomertime.com/reports.php and download my special report. It's filled with ideas.

So, boomers -- keep on trucking and working and teaching and mentoring and being fulfilled. You are the knowledge base of your companies, the backbones. Don't leave before you're ready and by all means, don't let them push you out of the nest before you're ready. Instead, be a mentor, a teacher, a leader and help to ensure that the succession will have an easy transition.

Have a great Sunday.
Ann

I Will Never Understand Men

2008-06-28T10:06:00.003-04:00

You know, it's a lovely Saturday morning and I'm stuck in thoughts about a man, and a date I had and why I don't hear from him. I feel like I'm 16. It's ridiculous... but I want to get it out of my system.

For more than 10 years, I stayed in a loveless marriage and I held my tongue, didn't speak up much and just settled for a mediocre life. When I left that life, I promised myself I wouldn't do that. So, I'm more outspoken.But, when it comes to relationship, I seem to lose my tongue, for fear that if I say the wrong thing, I'll end the possibility of being with that person.

Well, here it's "up" for me again. I've had a few dates with a man I like a lot. He's attractive, he's smart, he does meaningful work in the world, he knows himself, works on himself. He's great... not to mention he showed a lot of interest in me at first.
Our last date was nice. We inched a bit closer to knowing each other better... got a little more intimate. When he left, however, I felt he might not be back. I couldn't really put my finger on it, but just my gut saying something.

I sent him a thank you email in the morning for the dinner, the date and told him I look forward to doing it again. I didn't hear back at all.... until a week later. He sent a text saying he was confused and apologized for the silence. I wrote back that I respect that and asked to talk. Now, it's two days later.... no response.

A couple of years ago I read that dreaded book, "He's Just Not That Into You." I hated it. But, you know, when someone doesn't call or really keep in touch, I guess I have to assume they're just not into me. But here's the rub. I'm a big girl ... fairly secure with myself. If he's not that into me, he should just say it and we can both move on. But, if he is still interested and wants to have some breakthroughs in relationship with me, then he might tell me that. With nothing, little communication, I know nothing.

Now, yes, I'm reasonably secure, but like many women, when a man stops being around me, I immediately wonder and judge what I've done and how I look. Obviously he didn't stick around because of those 20 extra pounds ... I'm not attractive to him. Or, my big mouth got me in trouble again. I totally move into the fact that if he's not interested then it's "all about me." How stupid is that. It could, of course, just be his own "angst" and issues. Maybe I remind him of someone else that he didn't like, or maybe he really does like me but is afraid of getting hurt. The list could be endless.

Here's the point: When you are in a relationship with someone, even if it's new -- it would be great to start off with open, clear and honest communication. Let each other know where you stand. It's pretty simple.

Life is too short!
Two nights ago, I went to the symphony. It was awesome. As my girlfriend and I were leaving, I lost my footing and fell down half a flight of stairs. I was embarrassed and have huge bruises on my arms and legs to prove it. BUT.... we never know from one moment to the next what will happen to us. Yes, we ARE in charge of our lives, but I still think that the unexpected happens.

I want to live life for the NOW. I want to enjoy my experiences with people and not over analyze (as I'm sometimes accused of doing.) I just want to love, be loved, give and receive and most of all have fun.

I wish this man could let me know what he's thinking. I hope he does. I'm giving him space -- to connect further or to move on ... but it would be nice to know what he chooses.
Me... I'll continue working on living and enjoying for the moment and relinquishing expectations (not an easy task.)
Life is about discovering, learning about ourselves and LIVING with passion and ease.
Have a glorious weekend.
thanks for letting me vent.
Ann

The Hula Hoop Experience

2008-06-21T10:00:00.003-04:00

Morning,
I just read that it's the 50th anniversary of the invention of the hula hoop. (See story here: http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/lanow/2008/06/post-2.html
All I can say is WOW! Sometimes I feel really old.... but that's not my focus here.

I remember playing with my hula hoop for hours. And, I remember being good at it back then. I tried it a few times in recent months -- don't remember where or with whom. But, it wasn't as easy. That's a mystery though. My hips are definitely more defined (that's a nice way of saying it) now, with more of a groove between them and my waist, so why didn't it work as well? I don't think my rhythm has changed.. so what's the deal? When was the last time you took on a hula hoop ... and how did you do?

The larger issue is -- how much do you allow yourself to play? What do you do to create the laughs and chuckles? There's two parts to the hula hoop kind of experience. There's the fun factor and there's the physical/exercise factor.

Many of us boomers have discovered exercise. Many of us either hate or love it, but we do it because we want to be healthier or skinnier or for acceptance or to impress someone -- who knows. But, are we also connected to FUN?

I'm lucky. My work is fun... literally. Companies hire me to bring fun into the workplace. That's the focus of my company Humor University. But, the reason I started doing that sort of work is because I have a very playful side of myself that isn't happy when I'm not having fun. So, fun is important. (How many more times or ways can I say that?)

Last night, my girlfriend Tina came over to my apartment. We cooked a great, healthy vege pasta together. Then, we went to a pub in the Times Square area for Zydeco dancing. The band was definitely cajun, the music lively and the room packed.... with mostly BABY BOOMERS. We danced the night away. What a blast. I love to go dancing. The Zydeco experience is maybe twice a month, but every Wednesday night there's a 12-person swing band at a club on the Upper Westside that plays just for a boomer and above group. It's awesome. And, let's not forget, dancing carries with it the physical and the FUN.

Today, for fun, I'm taking the subway downtown... way downtown and then starting to walk back uptown along the Hudson River. It will be hot, probably crowded, but that walk is beautiful and much more fun then the treadmill at the gym.

What are you doing for fun today. If you're having any trouble figuring out how to do it, watch some kids playing at the playground and remember how it was to be young and playful.
Have a wonderful Saturday.

It's Not the Economy Stupid

2008-06-19T08:51:00.005-04:00

Morning,
I expect I'll be ranting here a bit, but then I'll have some solutions or at least ideas.
First, more than ever before, I realize how much the constant news feeds the "worry frenzy." I visited my sister last week and while staying with them, they had the news on ALL DAY LONG. It was CNN and MSNBC -- and they continually talked about all that is "wrong" with the world -- from the political stuff, to the enconomy, to the bad weather trends, to who knows what. There were no positive stories -- only anxiety-producing material.

Now, I also know that some people accuse me of wanting to stick my head in the sand and NOT face some of the reality. Hey -- it's better than doing drugs -- I'll put my head in the sand as long as I can breathe.

I realized that when I hear all this How Bad it is stuff -- I get anxious. And the only reason I hear it is because of the media frenzy that highlights it.
When I'm at home, I watch the morning news or check online just to see if there's anything important to know about and to get the weather report. After that, it's quiet while I work ... or maybe I play background music.

Are there some challenges about the economy how? Yes ... of course. Have we seen economic challenges before? Yes, ... of course. Have we overcomed, moved through, moved on past them before? Yes.... of course. Will we again? Yes.... of course.
It's NOT the ECONOMY --- it's the frenzy.

Instead of talking about how expensive gas is, why don't we report on solutions or things each one of us can do individaully? Like, carpool, take trains or buses. How about working an hour or 45 minutes extra each day so that one of the 10 days in a two week period could be done from home? Wouldn't even not driving one day make a difference? How about people consolidating their errands to conserve drive time? How about families working together about how to consolidate or take public transportation together (where possible). It's back down to what can each of us do?

In other aspects of the economy -- food prices for example. How about people start eating at home more? How about families coming together with potluck meals... more sharing and stretching to make food go further. These are great idea and great for building family connections as well.

The point: Each of us can take personal responsibility to do things a little differently in order to impact our own pocketbooks. Boomers are great at this -- we are the acitivists from the 60's and 70's -- let's remember how we loved to make a difference and tap back into that spirit.

And my last point --- what have you done for someone else lately? You know, when you spend all your time whining about how bad it is for you, you forget that it's much worse for others. How about a commitment to volunteering in some way -- as a work team or as a family team -- to help those less fortunate. The upside -- it helps them, of course, but it also helps you. There's no better cure for depression (except "legal, prescribed" drugs maybe) than getting outside of yourself and being of service to others.

Boomers -- align. Go out and do some good.
End of rant.

Struggle for Self

2008-06-15T11:52:00.003-04:00

I awoke today with the concept of how much we "struggle just to be who we are" ... which I'm calling the Struggle for Self.
Even though many of us are beyond the child-rearing parts of our lives and perhaps have even lost our parents, we still find ourselves striving to caretake wherever we can.

I've been a caretaker my entire life. I mean, I'm a social worker -- the ultimate caretaker -- taking on the needs of everyone who needs me. I was a professor and cared for students, I had my therapy practice for over 30 years. Now, I coach and train others to create "more or better" in their lives.

And. let's not forget that yes, I'm still a Mother and have a "creative" son ... which is polite for a "struggling musician/singer" son ... who still needs much from his Mom. With my parents long gone, I've become the family "matriarch." So, when the family has issues, it's me who is called upon. Or, when it's time for a gathering or reunion, it's me who makes it happen. In other words... I'm the dependable, responsible, caretaking one. Now I say this without feeling at all like a victim. I choose it all and I hope to NOT be a martyr about it.

What I do want to make a point about, however, is that the one I don't take enough care of is ... MOI! Me! Please don't misunderstand. I don't engage in wild and irresponsible behaviors. I think think things through. I have fun and great experiences. But, I don't get enough sleep, I don't floss absolutely every day, I don't cleanse my face every night.

I am, currently, eating well, walking and working out -- a huge commitment to myself and I feel great about it. I hope to keep it up. The reason it's working so well is because I'm home much more. In fact, I'm barely traveling again til September.Wow.

So, I raise this issue because it all relates to my struggle with myself. I not only have the issue of not always taking great care of me, but I also struggle with the typical questions we all do, e.g. Why am I here? What's my purpose? Who am I supposed to be and what should I be doing? Am I making a difference? We could go on adinfinitim .... you get the drift.

Perhaps many of the boomers are struggling with these issues.
Perhaps instead of calling it a struggle, we should call it the proverbial "Opportunity!"

Point: Where do you need to focus on who you are and what you're about and what you need? Do you take the time to do that? It's important to figure out the WHO.

One of my all time favorite sayings, which seems timely here is:
"Take care of yourself so you can take care of others." And, I'll add -- BUT, don't take so much care of others that you forget to take care of you!
Happy Sunday,
Ann

Women Today

2008-06-09T09:20:00.004-04:00

I had the privilege last night of attending a special one-time performance of a play about the beginnings of Women's Rights. It was put on as a Fund-raiser for a Feminist Organization.

The performance was wonderful. It gave a progression of events from the 1800's with Susan B. Anthony carrying the torch, through to the early 1970's. Very educational and informative.

There was one very interesting piece of knowledge that came across that's timely to the recent events here politically. In the 1800's, Male Negroes, as they were called, got the right to vote before women of any race. A woman was still "on the bottom" so to speak. The play did not discuss anything current, but in discussions following, we realized we saw that in motion -- Barack Obama won the primary over Hillary Clinton. A black male has the potential to be president before a woman.

This makes me wonder about the sexism that probably does still exist here, in our country. We know about third world countries, but what about here? We find ourselves wondering about racism and I wonder about ageism, BUT, is there still a lot of anti-women sentiment? I consider myself lucky. I don't remember ever feeling discrimination by virtue of being a woman. I've had wonderful jobs and opportunities -- I've been in corporate management, I've been hired over men for speaking and consulting jobs. I feel respected. But, I know that's certainly not true for many other women. We also know that having a good education helps, but is it naive to think that it's enough? I only raise questions here.

It's unbelievable to me that men would discriminate against women -- I mean we have the children. Men could not exist without us. Everyone knows this. What would happen if women stopped procreating? Would there be less or more respect? Just a wild card thought.

Anyhow, I reach no conclusions -- just raise the issue.
Being one who likes to fight a good fight or take on a good cause, this wasn't one I expected to show up. It did, last night. What I do know is how many women disempower themselves, don't stand up for themselves and don't know the capacity of opportunity they can have. Now that's a cause I am up for.

Women boomers -- unite -- there's a big, beautiful world out there and many of you have yet to discover your purpose for existence. I'm here to help.

Point: Remember, again ... don't die with your dreams inside. Begin to differentiate how you want to live the rest of your life.

Stay tuned for my teleclasses and workshops on transition, empowerment and adventure.
Stay cool in this grueling heat.
Ann

Election Lessons

2008-06-07T14:37:00.008-04:00

Howdy on this warm Saturday afternoon in NY.

I realized today, as Hillary Clinton formally stepped aside to Barack Obama, that there are so many wonderful lessons we can take from this experience... as boomers and just as human beings.
1. When you really, really want something, you MUST, no matter what, go for it. Hillary has had the dream of running for President since she was a young adult. Obama, although much younger, has had the dream as well. John McCain, from decades past, has always had the desire and even though he was struck down before, he is going for it again.
2. Don't let anyone else try to dissuade you from going after what that is that you want. Don't let anyone burst your bubble. There have been and will always be those folks that tell you all the reasons why it's a bad idea and why you shouldn't go for it. Tell them to go stick their criticism where the sun don't shine -- give them no "buy in."
3. No matter what sex or age you are -- you're a viable person to lead! This is so monumental and yet so clear that I don't need to add to it.
4. When what you want doesn't work out, bow out gracefully! Regardless of whether or not you supported Hillary, she did something that is historic -- the first woman to run on a major platform. How dare people not allow her a few extra days to grieve, pull it together and then, when ready announce her intentions for what's next.
5. Stop criticizing all that is different about people and start acknowledging what we share in common and what we want for the common good. What if we became a nation of people that only acknowledged (even when we don't agree) rather than "tore down" others for how they differed. Could a campaign actually be run that way? What a concept.
6. Be proud to share your opinion and to debate with your friends and family -- everyone is entitled and has the constitutional right to do that. How awesome.
7. We saw the ages come together here and we were on the same page, working together side-by side. This primary attracted more voters than ever and that included many young ones. What if we could bring this inter-generational cooperation to the workplace and to our families. Wow!

Now I'm sure that in days to come, I'll think of many more lessons and applications to boomers, but for now, let me sum it up.
Both Hillary and Obama are boomers -- she had the upper end and he at the bottom end. But, they represent US. We, the 77+million of us are the main folks to vote -- we count. Let's never take that role lightly. Make your voice heard. There is history in the making and we're part of it. We will either have the Oldest man in office ever OR the first Afro-American man in office. It's cool! Boundaries are being broken.
Keep the momentum -- for just a few more months.

I know I'll continue to tire of the debates, the ads that cut each other down, the news being dominated by all this. But, if I can remember that we have the right to select in this process and that I can speak my mind and cast my vote ... I won't complain much.

Have a glorious weekend.
Ann

Getting in Shape

2008-06-02T09:16:00.004-04:00

Good Monday morning,
Well, I've truly made the commitment -- it's time to get in shape. I'm tired of feeling droopy, saggy, chubby and all that goes along with it. Now, I've been tired of it for a long time, so why now?

Who knows what brings us around to the "right time" for anything. Maybe it's an ad we see, or something someone says, or one more glance in the mirror.It doesn't matter.

So, here's what I am committed to and I invite you to make your own plan.
1. I've found a chiropractor/kinesiologist -- we'll have regular visits, which also include meal planning, detoxing, etc.
2. I'll be eating healthy meals -- following the plan and cooking in more, rather than always eating out.
3. I'll be walking for a minimum of 45 minutes at least 5 days a week. (I might even try riding a bike again... who knows.)
4. I'll be dancing as often as possible ... at least 2 x per month (and maybe I'll take some lessons too)
5. Although I have a gym membership -- I rarely use it, but might get myself back in there.
6. I'm enrolling my friends to keep me focused on the goal --- to firm up, lose at least 20 pounds and look fabulous and feel good.

So, come on and join me. This Head Boomer needs to look "hot" for the jacket cover of my book .... coming out this Fall.

Have a great week.
Ann